Prejudice

A friend of mine, Destiny "Moku" Wright, recently brought up something that I thought would be a wonderful, yet touchy, subject to, well, touch. Prejudice! And the people associated with it. Destiny's feelings on this:

"I hate being told I’m “a really pretty black girl” or ” a really smart black girl” or “a well spoken teen” as if I’m some exception to the rule. I’m human…not an oxymoron. It is not a compliment when my race, age or class is used as anything but an adjective. In fact, it’s offensive.Even more offensive is when my people, my generation, and my class act their stereotype. Live beyond expectations."

I completely agreed with her statement and wrote the following:

I find it HIGHLY offensive. Most, have the audacity to tell me to calm down when I comment on things like this because "You're not even black, you're mixed", but I think that entitles me to say something since THEY ARE my people too. I just recently got a comment from some guy on VampireFreaks.com telling me, "To be honest, I say this in the most non racist way xD You have really nice hair for a black girl. I don't mean that offensively though xD Your pretty:] ". Why does color or someones image have to matter so much? Why can't you just be, a pretty girl, instead of "you're very pretty for a black girl", like black girl CAN'T be gorgeous. There are gorgeous people within ALL races, I'm not even speaking for just us black girls here in America, but also our straight race black girls all over the world. Who said white skin, or skin with lack of color was the definition of beauty.

Again, this is only MY opinion, I want to ask you Facebook. Have you ever had to deal with this as well? What are your opinions on the topic? Have you ever found yourself guilty of doing this? If so, why did you feel you had to make a comment such as the one you did? Is there anyone out there that thinks they can justify doing it? Let me know, I really want thoughts and comments on this.